There is no moral issue here. She cried when you proclaimed your love of goodness because, in part, it was a sign that you weren't broken and desperate for Mormonism. Don't put them through that either. Good to see that I'm not alone. She likely hasn't had many long-term relationships and has no idea what dynamics are involved in one. He can't make a mental switch easily to adjust to our pace of life. But i am struggling to cope with him and his hectic schedule. I disagree with the doctrines and practices of the LDS church.
I grew away from mine as my husband then-boyfriend slowly grew closer to his Mormon faith. This isn't what I expected. If you and she are not sealed, your children won't be sealed to either of you. And our strength doesn't necessarily come from ego or wealth. But we only really get time together in the summer. If you are dating a Mormon man or woman, be genuinely interested in their religion.
You must either really love blue balls, or else she is not a real deal Mormon girl. And believe me, I can relate to many of the things you talk about in your blog. It's been really tough and am only hoping to see a glimpse of the reward soon, whether it is simply watching a movie and actually finish it in one sitting or finally having dinner in the same room. By those standards, I was a failure, my husband wasn't "good enough" - and my daughter had ambitious real goals that required a lot of time and effort.
In any case; I can assure you from your post that he doesn't sound like he's being selfish; the behavior does sound like its residency related and not selfishness related. My husband has the benefit of having his cake and eating it too. I would say though that racial differences are NOT like religious differences, certainly not those between Mo and Nomo.